Meaningful conversations have changed my life. I long for them. You can create an environment where meaningful discussions happen consistently by courageously asking great questions.
I bet you can connect many of the positive turning points in your life to inspiration that came from answering the right questions. Great questions lead to meaningful conversations.
The benefits of impactful conversations include…
- Relationship tension decreases
- Insight into your strengths and potential
- Inspiration to pursue your goals
- Increased trust in relationships
I challenge clients to make a list of their favorite questions to keep handy. Below are some of my favorites I’ve asked over the 3 decades as a family therapist.
“A conversation is a dialogue, not a monologue. That’s why there are so few good conversations: due to scarcity, two intelligent talkers seldom meet.” – Truman Capote
20 Questions to Ignite Meaningful Conversations
Questions 1 – 10
- What is a positive habit you would like to create?
- What energizes & excites you?
- What’s a tipping point that changed your life trajectory?
- How would your life change if you were 10 times bolder?
- What do you want LESS of in your life?
- What’s a negative habit you would like to break?
- What do you find most fascinating and motivating about your job?
- What is one of the hardest life challenges you’ve faced?
- How are you different now than you were 5 years ago?
- What can you do today to connect with and encourage someone?
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Questions 11 – 23
- How are you stuck (i.e., not making progress)? How can you get unstuck?
- How have you faced a fear recently?
- What do you want MORE of in your life?
- How does your life reflect your core values?
- What would you do with your time if you didn’t have your phone for a weekend?
- How can people best encourage you when you’re struggling?
- What is a fear that you’re avoiding? What difference would it make if you faced it?
- What are 2 of your goals over the next 90 days?
- What do you want to say “YES” to more?
- What is something that nearly always makes you smile?
- What’s your biggest challenge right now?
- How do you want to be remembered when you’re gone?
- What are the toughest decisions for you to make?
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Let’s be honest—asking meaningful, relationship-building questions can feel a little awkward, especially if it’s not something you’re used to. You might worry people will resist or the vibe will get weird. That’s exactly why we created the 50 Relationship-Building Questions Activity—a simple, fun way to break the ice and get everyone connecting naturally.
Whether you’re gathered around the dinner table, leading a team meeting, or catching up with friends, this activity is designed to make great conversations easier—and a lot more fun.
What’s Inside:
You’ll get a printable set of 50 numbered questions plus 6 creative ways to use them, including:
- Mealtime Fun – Everyone picks a number and answers a question before and during the meal.
- Daring – Everyone answers the same question before moving on.
- Mindreading – Guess how someone will answer before they do.
- Chaos Mode – No rules! Jump in, ask questions, and keep it lively.
Just cut out the 50 numbered squares at the bottom of the PDF, toss them in a jar or cup, and you’re ready to go. Or download and use the 50 Relationship-Building Questions Activity as is.
Download the activity now and turn small talk into real connection!
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