Fear of rejection is most people’s biggest fear. Growth is always on the other side of fear. Connecting with people, the fear of rejection, can be immobilizing.
You’re being vulnerable when you take an action with no guarantee of a positive outcome. Choosing not to play it safe is the only way to grow.
Here are 6 questions you can ask others that can help you connect. Each one could also lead to what feels like rejection. They work great with friends, co-workers, and family. You don’t need to ask all 6, but even just one a week could help strengthen even the most challenging of relationships. You have the courage inside to reach out and connect!
“Always bear in mind that your resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.” ~ Abe Lincoln
6 Great Questions
- What are the main causes of stress for you right now? Anything I can do to help?
- How can I help you succeed in an area of you life (e.g. career, health, relationships, etc.)?
- Is there anything I’ve done recently that has hurt you that I need to make right?
- What’s one thing I can do MORE of to help our relationship?
- What’s one thing I can do LESS of to help our relationship?
- Am I doing anything that makes it difficult to communicate with me lately?
“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships together.” ~ Stephen Covey
Guidelines for Asking These Questions
Guidelines for Asking These Questions
For couples, once every couple of weeks, go through all 6. With your friends, co-workers, and family, look for opportunities to ask a question. Validate their answer by saying something like “that makes sense”. In other words, alter the wording so that it feels natural.
Be curious! Prove you’re listening by paraphrasing what you hear. Cut yourself some slack if this feels weird. New positive habits ALWAYS feel awkward at first.
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